Escaping The Victim Mindset

We get more of what we focus on. 😮

Some people focus on happiness and gratitude. They become happier and more grateful, as a result.

Some people focus on fear, doubt, and gloom. The unfortunate result is more of those subjects entering their lives.

The most difficult thing to escape is a victim mindset. It is often embedded deep within your subconscious mind, and it was installed there during your youth.

You received that programming from your parents, teachers, friends, and society. You absorbed the content as pure fact, simply because you had no baseline to compare facts against, at the time.

Perhaps you grew up being told you were shy, so now you believe it. And, you act this way as an adult.

Maybe you grew up being told you weren't good enough. You believed that, too. You now accept it as part of your character.

You listened to your parents and other authority influences complain and blame everyone else for their own problems and situations. You adopted that mindset of blaming, too. It's what you observed and learned.

The victim mindset is the hardest to break free from, because of how readily available there are for others with the same mindset to validate your victim mindset. They do this constantly.

During a low point within your thoughts, you'll make a post on social media, proclaiming something about how your life isn't fair. You'll blame others for your situation, or blame others for your source of grief. You want to be heard. Validated.

What happens?

A flood of other victim mindset people arrive. They've been waiting in their own darkness, scanning the social media feed for their own negative validation. They reinforce your post because they share the same mindset.

The blame game compounds. It's always someone, or some other group's fault. You blame your misery, depression, unhappiness on other people.

What you fail to understand is that when you blame others for your unhappiness, you've also given them control over you. You've admitted that you do not control your own emotions or presence.

So, how do you get out of this victim mindset jail?

You must establish distance from those who reinforce your victim mindset, for their own selfish reasons. They will trap you with them forever. Avoid seeking validation from others in the same trap.

You must stop looking outward for your sources of misery and happiness, and focus inward within yourself. You are the true source of both happiness and misery. It is always your decision.

Begin taking 100% accountability and ownership for everything in your life. Your finances, your success, your relationships, your career. Everything.

Realize that your current situation is the result of decisions you made in the past. Realize that your future is based on decisions you make today. Rest easy, understanding that everything is within your own control. You shouldn't want it any other way.

You get more of what you focus on. I hope to see you on the other side. 🧡


Less Distraction & More Action - With Nir Eyal - EP0149

Nir Eyal is the international best-selling author of "Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products" and his latest book "Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life". This latest is a guidebook for getting the best of technology without letting it get the best of us. Indistractable received critical acclaim, winning the 2019 Outstanding Works of Literature (OWL) Award, was named one of the Best Business and Leadership Books of the Year, according to Amazon and one of the Best Personal Development Books of the Year by Audible

Nir is formerly a Lecturer in Marketing at Stanford's Graduate School of Business and also taught at the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design.

Name
Nir Eyal
City, State, Country
NYC & Singapore
Company Name & Position Title
Author, Hooked and Indistractable
Website
NirAndFar.com
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/nirandfar/
Instagram Page
http://instagram.com/neyal99
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/nireyal
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/
Book
geni.us/Indistractable

His YouTube Show Hit 300 Million Views - With Matt Farah - EP0147

Matt Farah is a career automotive journalist who has reviewed thousands of cars on his YouTube channel "The Smoking Tire", which has nearly a million subscribers and over 300 million video views. He is also host of "The Smoking Tire" podcast, which leads the automotive category on iTunes.

In this episode, we discuss how to build a massive audience by simply being who you are. We also discuss how Matt transitioned his online persona into physical businesses, including his new Los Angeles based business, West Side Collector Car Storage.

Name
Matt Farah
City, State, Country
Los Angeles, CA
Company Name & Position Title
The Smoking Tire, Owner

West Side Collector Car Storage, Owner

Website
http://thesmokingtire.com/

https://wccs.com/

Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/TheSmokingTire/
Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/thesmokingtire/
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/TheSmokingTire
YouTube Channel
https://www.youtube.com/user/TheSmokingTire

$100 Million Entrepreneur & Single Father Of Five - With Matt Sweetwood - EP0146

Matt Sweetwood is the CEO of LUXnow - the marketplace for luxury autos, homes, and yachts. He is an internationally known professional speaker and life coach.

As an entrepreneur for over 30 years, Matt previously built a $100MM camera store business.

However, his greatest achievement is having raised five successful children as a single dad. He is also author of #1 best-selling book: “Leader of the Pack: How a single dad of five led his kids, his business and himself from disaster to success.”

Name
Matt Sweetwood
City, State, Country
Miami, FL
Company Name & Position Title
Luxnow, CEO
Website
https://msweetwood.com/

https://luxnow.com/

Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/msweetwood
Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/msweetwood/
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/MSweetwood
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/msweetwood/
Book
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07BYCR1M1

Unlock Your Brain To Achieve Success - With Dr Rick Perea - EP0145

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Dr Rick Perea, PhD is one of the most dynamic Performance Psychologists in the world. The NFL's Denver Broncos utilized his mindset strategies to help win the Super Bowl in 2016.

He's also the Performance Psychologist for The NBA's Denver Nuggets, NFL's Miami Dolphins, and MLB's Colorado Rockies.

Rick is also author of a new book, "Decision Point" which just launched on Amazon.

What does a champion mindset consist of? Tune in and find out!

Name
Rick Perea
City, State, Country
Denver, CO
Company Name & Position Title
ThinkOne, CEO
Website
ThinkOne4you.org
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/LeadersDecisionPoint
Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/Drpthinkone4you/
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/DrPDK2
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rick-perea-ph-d-c-p-c-c-e-p-s-i-p-8a370792/
Book
Decision Point: The Moment Leaders are Born

https://www.amazon.com/Decision-Point-Moment-Leaders-Born/dp/B089TWPV3B/


Decoding Generational Entrepreneurship - With Brad Szollose - EP0144

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Brad Szollose has been a serial entrepreneur since 1979. He's built 9 businesses from scratch... one of those he took public on NASDAQ.  As CMO and Co-Founder of K2 Design, his company was the first digital marketing agency to go public.

He's an Award-Winning Creative Director, Visionary, TEDXSpeaker, and Web Pioneer.

Brad is also host of Awakened Nation podcast, and author of his new book, "Liquid Leadership 2.0"

Name
Brad Szollose
City, State, Country
Henderson, NV
Company Name & Position Title
Another Big Production, Inc., Co-Founder, Creative Director
Website
http://www.anotherbigproduction.com
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/BradSzolloseKeynoteSpeaker/
Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/bradszollose/
Twitter Page
http://www.twitter.com/BradSzollose, @LiquidLeader, @awakened_nation
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/bradszollose/
Other Social Media or Websites (book, IMDb, etc...)
https://www.bradszollose.com/

https://www.instagram.com/awakenednationpodcast/,

https://liquidleadership.com/,

https://www.youtube.com/user/BradSzollose,

https://www.youtube.com/awakenednationwithbradszollose


Out Of This World Marketing Strategy - With Jen DeVore - EP0143

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Jen DeVore Richter is the former head of advertising and consumer research for NASA at Kennedy Space Center. While at NASA, she implemented their very first direct-response TV campaign helping to make KSC one of the Top-5 most visited tourist attractions in Florida.

Jen made the switch from marketing executive to entrepreneur in 2003 and last year was awarded "Innovator of the Year" for excellence in Business Coaching for her programs “Boss Women Rock” and “Instant Media Mogul” among others.

Name
Jen DeVore
City, State, Country
Denver, CO
Company Name & Position Title
Boss Women Rock, Founder
Website
http://www.jendevore.rocks
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/jen.devore.richter/
Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/jendevorerichter/
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/JenRDeVore
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenrdevore/
YouTube Channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv7k7dlDYc0qkqLei8jIYsg

She Fell Off A Cliff To Rise Higher - With Natalia Diane - EP0142

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Natalia Diane Sanchez is a business and leadership coach dedicated to facilitating transformational growth in her clients to elevate their self-mastery, alignment, leadership, and achievement potential.

She has an unusual story of adversity, having taken a fall off a cliff. This left her broken mentally and physically, but she grew to greater heights afterward.

Name
Natalia Diane Sanchez
City, State, Country
San Diego, CA
Company Name & Position Title
Natalia Diane Sanchez, Transformational Growth & Leadership Coach
Website
Nataliadiane.com
Facebook Page
facebook.com/nataliadianeprocoach
Instagram Page
instagram.com/nataliadiane
Twitter Page
twitter.com/msnataliadiane
LinkedIn Page
linkedin.com/in/nataliadiane/

Car Dealerships And Bold Leadership - With Glenn Lundy - EP0141

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Glenn Lundy is host of the wildly popular Facebook Live show #RiseAndGrind. He’s been on stage at places like Hustle and Grind Con, and Grow Your Business For God’s Sake!

With 20 years experience in the automotive industry, Glenn has been spotlighted on ABC, NBC, and CBS, and is an expert in auto dealership culture development, and leadership training.

Glenn has the unique ability to help identify the areas for growth in your store, and teach creative ways to invoke your dealership's spirit.

Name
Glenn Lundy
City, State, Country
Lexington, KY
Company Name & Position Title
GlennLundy LLC - President
Website
glennlundy.com
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/glenn.lundy.58
Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/glenn_lundy/
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/GlennBLundy
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/glennlundy
Other Social Media or Websites (book, IMDb, etc...)
themorning5.com

How To Create A Brand Name - With Alexandra Watkins - EP0140

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Alexandra Watkins is the outrageously outspoken founder of Eat My Words, the only branding firm on the planet that specializes in creating brand names that make people smile instead of scratch their heads.

Countless startups and companies including Amazon, Google, Twitter, Disney, Coca-Cola, and Colgate have tapped her to come up with creative and engaging names that move people and move products.

Her breakthrough creativity book, “Hello, My Name is Awesome: How to Create Brand Names That Stick,” was named a Top 10 Marketing Book by Inc. Magazine and a Top 10 Branding Book by Branding Journal.

Name
Alexandra Watkins
City, State, Country
San Diego, CA
Company Name & Position Title
Eat My Words, Founder
Website
http://www.eatmywords.com
Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/EatMyWordsNames
Twitter Page
https://twitter.com/eatmywords
LinkedIn Page
https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrawatkins/
Book
Hello, My Name Is Awesome: How to Create Brand Names That Stick - https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B07V6MFHRH/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_mfHMEb0QWKDKG